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” If you imagine it, you can achieve it. If you dream it, you can become it.” – William Arthur Ward. One of our patient’s sucess story in his own words

My fatherhood story

From the age of 20 I know I will become a parent, but time past faster than I felt and I was over 40 still a single man with no clue how I am making my biggest dream come true. And it happened a few years ago I came to read in a local newspaper about a gay couple becoming parents to a child getting help by a surrogate via Rotunda.

 It took me more than 2 years before I got the courage to send a mail to Rotunda and on the second mail my angel on earth wrote me. It was Dr Goral who later I understood is going to be the most meaningful person ever for me. She personally was the doctor and embryologist who got my embryos created through egg donation and she personally was the doctor who selected and put back the perfect embryos in my surrogate’s womb.

But this I will tell later. Before I want to tell about how afraid I was to begin the path. I am a single man, living alone in Israel. I don’t have any will changing my status. The only thing ever I wanted was a family! My family! and at the age of 43 I finally said to myself that I can’t wait no more and I sent the first mail to Rotunda. Till that stage it was the most difficult thing I did. No one can understand how much courage I needed and if not the feeling that this is what GOD has wishing for me I would not have become a father. My first try did not succeed. It took me 6 more months and good words from Dr Goral to start 1 more time. Got 1 more flight to Mumbai and again sat in Rotunda while the egg donation and 2 days later getting  embryos back in my surrogate.12 days later Dr Goral sent me the best mail till then telling me there is a pregrancy.

8 months later I became the happiest man living on earth! I am a father of a daughter and a son.

 My twins are 1 year and almost 4 months now. The boy is running for almost 2 month and the girl is making her first steps now. There is no happiness bigger than my happiness! No argument about it. Thank God for allowing me to be a father to my twins and thank Gods angel on earth (Dr Goral).

For anyone reading this blog I wish to explain: You need to stand on your legs and want the impossible! It is possible, just decide you want it. Rotunda knows how to make our biggest dream come true. God is great. Thank you Rotunda and more than anyone thank you Dr Goral & Dr Allahbadia.

Oriah (meaning the light of God) – my daughter

Yehonathan (meaning God gave) –  my son &

 Me- Yehoshua / Joshua (meaning God will save)

Email: joshua40@walla.com

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Breaking News: Surrogacy not for married couples only – singles and gays will have legal rights to have surrogate babies

Single men, single women, gays and lesbians may soon get the legal sanction to undergo surrogacy in India.

The draft bill legalizing the surrogacy process in India has provided for Single parenthood by allowing “Unmarried Couples” and “Single Persons” from India and abroad to have children in India using ART procedures and surrogate mothers.

By conferring the right to have children on unmarried couples and single persons, the bill attempts to achieve several historic feats – legalizing commercial surrogacy, single parenthood, live-in relationships and entitling gays and lesbians to start families using surrogate mothers – at one go.

The bill proposes to set up a mechanism to regulate and supervise surrogacy in India.

The bill, with potential to rewrite the social landscape, may be tabled in the monsoon session of Parliament if the Union Cabinet clears it.

Read more about this on http://epaper.hindustantimes.com//artMailDisp.aspx?article=21_06_2010_001_020&typ=1&pub=264

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Indian IVF bill may stop gay couple surrogacy

In the name of the fathers ... John Allen-Drury, left, and his partner, Darren, nurse their son, Noah, who was born in India using a surrogate mother. Photo: Graham Crouch

If the parents of newborn Noah Allen-Drury are lucky, their son will sleep through the noise as their flight from India lands in Sydney this morning.

Noah’s gay parents, however, are aware of legal turbulence that could prohibit the surrogacy arrangements that fulfilled their wish for a child.

A growing number of male couples from Australia and other Western countries are hiring surrogates in India to bear children, but that might no longer be possible if a draft bill to regulate IVF in India becomes law.

R.S. Sharma, the secretary of the committee writing a bill to govern assisted reproductive technology (ART), told the Herald that unless gay and lesbian relationships are legalised in India, gay couples would be excluded from hiring surrogates.

Delhi’s High Court recently overturned a 150-year-old section of the country’s penal code that outlawed ”carnal intercourse against the order of nature”.

However, gay activists warn this ruling, which in effect decriminalised sodomy, does not legalise gay relationships, leaving the status of such relationships unclear.

“If our government does not permit gay relationships, then it certainly will not be permitted for foreign gay couples to come to this country and have a [surrogacy] agreement,” said Dr Sharma, who is the deputy director-general of the reproductive health and nutrition division at the India Council of Medical Research.

John and Darren Allen-Drury, who live in the Blue Mountains, raced to India earlier this month when their surrogate mother entered labour. She gave birth to Noah on April 8. John Allen-Drury said changes to India’s laws would be a great disappointment, if passed.

”It would prevent a lot of same-sex couples from coming here,” he said.

Although some gay couples sought surrogate mothers in the United States and Thailand, ”India really is the closest country to Australia that offers affordable surrogacy,” he said.

The draft bill could make it difficult for all Australian couples to use Indian surrogates.

One stumbling block would be a requirement that foreign countries guarantee they will accept the surrogate child as a citizen – before a surrogacy could begin.

Dr Sharma said foreign couples would have to obtain a document from their embassy or foreign ministry pledging the surrogate child citizenship of their country. “Only then will they be entitled to sign an agreement with a surrogate or an ART clinic,” he said.

Parents using a surrogate would also be obliged to accept the baby even if it was born with abnormalities.

”Under the Australian Citizenship Act, there are no guarantees,” a spokesman for the Department of Immigration and Citizenship said on Friday. ”What you can infer from this is that while it’s not illegal, we certainly wouldn’t be encouraging it by giving a rubber stamp to anyone who entered into such an agreement.”

Mr Allen-Drury said surrogacy in the US cost $200,000 or more. In India the arrangements could be made for $40,000 to $50,000. Thailand’s laws were changed last year to stop surrogacies for same-sex couples, although it remains legal for single males.

Mr Allen-Drury said a requirement for the Australian government to guarantee citizenship before a surrogacy could begin was impractical. ”That would just close the door,” he said.

Trevor Elwell and his partner, Peter West, have twin girls, Evelyn and Gaia, from a surrogate mother in Mumbai. Mr Elwell predicted parliamentary inertia meant the Indian laws were months or years off. But he was concerned that interim guidelines could be adopted and, in effect, exclude same-sex couples.

Mr Elwell said the citizenship proposal could pose an insurmountable hurdle.

”If you want to do that process earlier and confirm citizenship, you’re going to have to have a government process upfront,” he said.

The demand for a guarantee of citizenship meant the Australian government would have to grant it on the basis of a contract it did not recognise.

”It is a bit of a tangle, so it might affect heterosexual couples in the long run,” Mr Elwell said.

Since the publicity after they got their twins, Mr Elwell and Mr West say they have helped more than 100 couples – some gay, some straight – arrange a surrogate mother in India.

”The tip of the iceberg may have been us.”

 Source: The Sydney Morning Herald (26 April, 2010)

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Channel 2 Interview on Surrogacy, Israel – May 2009

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First Israeli gay man gets ‘maternity’ leave

o-eimg_0107omer-yonatan-evyatarThe National Insurance Institute authorized Israel’s first-ever “maternity” leave for a male couple on Thursday. Yonatan Gher, director of Jerusalem’s nonprofit Open House Pride and Tolerance organization, has received institute approval of a 64-day leave from work on the occasion of the birth of his biological son, born of a surrogate mother in India. His partner of seven years commenced formal adoption procedures, so that the child will be formally recognized as his as well.
Despite confirmation of the leave, Gher has not received an answer to his request for reimbursement of NIS 10,000 in hospitalization costs (Gher and his partner also stayed in the hospital prior to the delivery) from the NII.
The process began two years ago, when the couple realized formal adoption by a single man or two gay men was not an option here. They did not want to agree to joint parenthood with an Israeli woman, because they said it would expose the child to a situation similar to divorce.
They opted instead for IVF treatment through Rotunda-CHR, a Mumbai clinic(www.iwannagetpregnant.com), and chose the donor of the egg and a surrogate mother. They returned to Israel with their son in November 2008, and Gher took leave. Earlier this month he requested that his leave be acknowledged by the NII, and says he was “surprised” to have received a positive reply within a few weeks, without needing to take any additional action or submit an appeal. Gher sees the decision as a significant achievement. “What we have here is the establishment taking responsibility for a process that had been forced upon us,” he explained. “We have no legal possibility of having a child with a surrogate mother in Israel. Because it won’t allow that, the state is obliged to share with us the costs of the alternative, by the very fact of recognizing the maternity leave.”
The overall cost of the IVF procedure, including all expenses, is estimated by Gher to be over NIS 130,000. Meanwhile, his partner’s request for a leave is presently being debated at a labor court.
New Family organization lawyer Irit Rosenblum, who represents the couple, praised the NII decision. “This is an important milestone on the way to equity for the rights of the same-sex family in Israel. Up to now, the approach of the institute was detrimental to the rights and welfare of children in such families,” she said.
“The purpose of maternity benefits is to allow a devoted parent to answer the most important basic needs of an infant during the first months of its life,” Rosenblum added. “The needs of a male and female parents are identical in this situation, and the time has come for the legislator and the authorities to face reality and prevent gender discrimination in basic family rights.”
Tel Aviv’s District Labor Court is presently debating a precedent-setting lawsuit by two men seeking leave following the birth of their daughter from a surrogate mother in the United States.

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Pregnancy and Diabetes

In the past, women with diabetes suffered many problems during pregnancy, including a high rate of miscarriages and birth defects. Today, however, with good prenatal care and careful self-management, there’s no reason women with type 1 or type 2 diabetes can’t have a safe pregnancy and a healthy baby.

Risks involved 
While it’s common for diabetic women to have relatively trouble-free pregnancies, some risks still exist for both mother and child. In general, the more diabetic complications you’ve had before pregnancy, the more likely they’ll worsen significantly during pregnancy. Women with severe kidney and eye complications, for instance, can expect that these conditions will be aggravated by a pregnancy. The damage often reverses after delivery, but women with these conditions should discuss potential dangers with their doctors before conceiving. 

Consistently high blood glucose levels increase the chances of miscarrying or going into premature labor. They may also cause the baby’s organs to form abnormally. Historically, diabetes has been associated with a threefold increase in severe malformations. Some examples include neural tube defects (incomplete development of the brain or spinal cord), anencephaly (absence of the brain or spinal cord), and spina bifida (failure of the backbone to fuse over the spinal cord).

Women with diabetes are also more likely to have large babies, with birth weights of 9–12 pounds. This condition can cause a difficult delivery. Doctors will often induce labor a few weeks early or perform a cesarean section if the fetus seems to be too large.

 Other problems can also result. The baby may have immature lungs (respiratory distress syndrome) or low blood levels of calcium and glucose at birth.

 Getting proper care for your diabetes before you become pregnant is an important step toward having a healthy baby. According to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases, the rate of major congenital malformations in babies born to women who already had diabetes before conceiving is 5% or less when the mothers received preconception care. But for diabetic women who don’t receive preconception care, the rate jumps to 10%.

Many women with severe diabetes are opting for IVF with surrogacy. 

Posted by : Goral Gandhi, MSc,

                   Laboratory Director,

                   Rotunda – Center for Human Reproduction (Pvt) Ltd

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Womb Raider

A UK High Court judge ruled earlier this year that the biological father of a child born to a surrogate should be able to keep the baby. The surrogate had been in a court battle over parenthood with the man following the birth of the child in December 2005. The court’s decision was handed down in July, but only made public last week, after the Court of Appeal dismissed the woman’s appeal saying that the trial judge had ‘crucially’ found that the woman and her husband had deliberately embarked on a path of deception.
The woman, known only as ‘Mrs P’, had apparently deceived the man and his wife into believing that she had miscarried the child she had conceived using the commissioning father’s sperm, and agreed to carry for them. Once the commissioning father found out that this was untrue, he and his wife launched legal proceedings. The judge found that while Mr and Mrs P had been good parents to the boy, they had deliberately embarked on surrogacy with the object of adding to their own family and had never intended to hand the baby over. The little boy now lives with his biological father and his wife, known only as Mr and Mrs J.
The court heard that the surrogate had also deceived another couple previously – in that case the father did not learn that a child had actually been born until the girl was four years old. Then, the girl’s biological father, who had paid Mrs P £850, decided not to apply for custody of his daughter and Mrs P was allowed to keep her. The father instead sought a court order for contact with the girl, and later made an agreement with Mrs P that his daughter would be told about him at the appropriate time and that he would be allowed to see her.
The information about the deceptions came from the woman’s 19-year old daughter, who informed the surrogacy agency that the couples had gone through. The surrogate already had three children of her own but was motivated by ‘a compulsive desire to bear further children’, found the court. The couple’s actions were evidence of a ‘desperate desire to parent more children by fair means, or failing that, foul’, said the judge. Mr Justice Coleridge, hearing the case at the High Court, ruled that the surrogate should give up the boy because she had set out to deceive both couples. It was for the court to decide, based on the best interests of the child, which set of parents would be better for the boy’s upbringing in the long term, he added. Recognising that surrogacy arrangements are a feature of contemporary life, he acknowledged that ‘when all goes according to plan they are a way of remedying the agony of childlessness’. But he added that ‘when arrangements do not go according to plan, the result, in human terms and legal terms is, putting it simply, a mess’ and that ‘the cost, in terms of appalling emotional pain for the parties, is huge’.The judge also issued a warning to surrogacy agencies, saying that they should make more stringent background checks on women putting themselves forward to become surrogates. While surrogacy is legal in the UK, agencies must operate on a not-for-profit basis and surrogates are not allowed to be paid more than ‘reasonable expenses’. Notwithstanding this, arrangements are unenforceable and usually if the surrogate changes her mind she will be entitled to keep the child.

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